Baby, don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...
So, I've been not updating for a while. I've been doing other things than thinking about my existence, my purpose, my relationship with my husband, my lack of employment and inability to focus long on too much.
What, you may ask, have I been up to?
I have been making lunch.
I've also been watching porn, hentai, and reading fanfics, which is like porn for women, which a lot of men don't quite get. Oh, and before I got on this kick, I was playing stupid facebook games that I almost want to delete now because they require you to log in and play them once a day. I'm so totally for Ninjawarz now...I hadn't logged in in like 5 months, and came back and had all these karma points to distribute, all this gold to spend, and no commitment. :) Ninjawarz, you can be my fuck buddy!!
So, We haven't had the Discussion yet. There are definite perks that make me feel quite comfortable and happy here in Billings, MT, namely family and shelter from the elements. Yes, I thought about finding some part time job when I first got here. But when I realized how ambitious Michal was about the renovations to the place, that kinda flew out the window. And true, I didn't spend all my time working, but then again, neither did he.
He has this idea that I don't always want to go to California. Usually, this idea presents itself when he believes me to be unhappy with him. And yes, sometimes I am unhappy with him. I have nothing against California, but I do sometimes have something against him. Usually it is something that I lack the tact to say without getting pissed off. I am currently avoiding the issue, because what will it get me if I say, "No dear. I can't go with you on your adventure, because you're driving me up the wall right now."
I've procrastinated a little bit over the past two weeks. I could've painted the living room in that time, and ripped up the carpet as well, but does it really matter? It won't take me very long to get it done now that I've got the ceiling painted. Oh, that was fun for my arms...two coats and holding a stick over my head for five hours.
Sometimes I ache so much for his affection. Sometimes I wish, instead of him focusing so much on what he doesn't like about me and my shortcomings, he'd remember that I also have good qualities.
It's not like I don't know that I love him, or hate him. It would be indifference that would signal the end of the relationship, right? That moment, when you realize you just don't give a damn what he thinks anymore. I'm not there yet, but some of the things he's said have hurt me, especially when they are true.
Like that day in Hewitt's when he thought I was dressed not respectably enough.
Like the fact that we don't really make love, but we occasionally have sex. Like, twice a month, maybe three or four. I've taken to masturbation and fantasizing about a Romantic Stranger. Julio Gonzales, or whoever you are, thanks for putting up with my sexy thoughts. Michal, feel free to jump in any time. I miss you.
All I really want him to consider is his own actions towards me. He sees it quite well from his perspective, but if I think he were to sit down, think about his complaints sometimes about what I do and what I don't do, and why I get angry and frustrated with him, perhaps he'll have a little sympathy towards me. Sometimes all I get from him are orders barked all day. Sometimes, I'll get a peck on the cheek. Sometimes, I get a lecture. Thankfully I get several hugs a day. I don't know what I'd do without those...